December 13, 2011
How to Break the Rules
There’s something to be said for following the rules. But as the famous saying goes, “Well-behaved women seldom make history.”
Maybe it’s time you stopped being well behaved at work – and started breaking some rules.
That’s what Jill Flynn, Kathryn Heath and Mary Davis Holt, authors of Break Your Own Rules, say. “Each of us have thoughts and beliefs that limit our potential.”
Which rules are worth breaking? Being too modest, thinking hard work is enough and focusing too much on others, say the authors, adding that it’s time to “start asking for what you want.”
Rules to stick to include being politically savvy, proceeding until apprehended (instead of always asking for permission), projecting personal power by taking
credit for accomplishments and projecting confidence through body language.
Limiting rules and beliefs can stem from individual experiences or result from gender stereotypes that surround us, the authors add. “We get in our own way when we buy into self-limiting beliefs, but we have it within our power to change the way we think.”
After all, when it comes to success, “There is no single way to succeed. Women should avoid black-and-white thinking and remain flexible.”
Still unsure of how to break free? CNN explores eight more ways to throw out old rules and get ahead at work, like taking opportunities instead of waiting for them to come to you and being more receptive to honest feedback and criticism.
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By Farren Davis
“Woman must not accept; she must challenge.” Margaret Sanger
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