Are You a Blurter?

I have a girlfriend who is a self-described “blurter.” “I’m like a gumball machine—whatever pops in my head comes out of my mouth,” she says. She’s a very successful businesswoman, but she admits sometimes her blurting gets her in trouble.

I have several clients who share a similar affliction, and to be honest I’ve been known to blurt at times. I’m working to stop, pause, and think before I speak out.

When I am acting as if everything is a 9-1-1, I’m more likely to speak without thinking. When I feel the adrenaline pumping, I try to remember to take the pause that refreshes. I stop, take a good cleansing breath, feel my feet on the floor, and hear the sounds around me. This pause helps me become present and grounded, and I’m less likely to blurt out.




By Randy Siegel