âWomen are their own worst enemies in the workplaceâ
âOnce a woman âmakes itâ in the corporate world, she doesnât want to help other women get there. They can fend for themselves just as she had toâ
âWomen donât help women in businessâ
These comments are often used to describe why women have not made greater strides in the workplace. I have been part of corporate America for many years in very competitive environments and other women have helped me every step of the way. In fact, if it werenât for some of my female managers and mentors, my road to success would probably have been a lot more difficult. So, women supporting other women: is it fact or fiction?
Catalystâs study âAdvancing Women Leaders: The Connection between Women Board Directors and Women Corporate Officersâ begins to answer the question. The study reveals that women board directors are a predictor of future women corporate officers: a company with 30% female board directors will have 45% more female corporate officers two years in the future than a company with no women on its board.
Other studies show that the women-owned firms have more gender equity than their male counterparts. Women business owners overall employ a fairly gender-balanced workforce (52% women; 48% men) while male business owners employ on average only 38% women. In addition, women business owners are more likely to offer flex time and tuition reimbursementâbenefits that are very important to many women.
But what about my personal experience from years in very competitive companies? My first job out of business school with the investment bank Salomon Brothers provides the best example. Wall Street and Salomon in particular were known for their intense, competitive and self-focused personalities. John Gutfreund, the firmâs former CEO in the â80s, was famous for being quoted in the Wall Street Journal as saying that his employees had to be ready to âbite the ass off a bear [market]â when they came to the office every day. This was clearly not a nurturing, touchy-feely environment. One would think that with the competition so intense, this would NOT be a place where women would help women. And yet here at bite-the-ass-off-a-bear Salomon Brothers, I worked for one of the best managers I have ever hadâa woman named Leslie Christian who ran the âhedge deskâ.
When I joined the hedge desk in 1985, âgreenâ couldnât begin to describe how clueless I was about fixed income derivativesâputs, calls, caps, swaps, strips, straddles. They sounded like some bizarre game. However, Leslie was able to see my potential and oversee my ignorance: she believed in me more than I believed in myself. She gave me enough rope to make me feel empowered, kept me from hanging myself, and managed by instilling confidence rather than fear. No man could have been more helpful to my career.
The Solution:
I feel certain that the situation for women is not very different from that of men. Men help men much of the timeâ¦but not always. Similarly, women often help other womenâ¦but not always.
Perhaps the reality is that men understand the game better and are able to practice the illusion of supporting each other. Or perhaps women fall into the trap of many âcultural minoritiesâ (and yes, in the workplace we are still a cultural minority). Seeing few spots in the business elite for women, we mistakenly perceive that this state of affairs is fixed. We believe that our competition for upward mobility is other womenâand only other womenâsince we are vying for those âfemaleâ slots. We ignore the reality that it helps all of us if more women ascend the ranks.
We women can do better. We currently make up a large percentage of the workforce yet we donât use our clout. We need to support each other, yes, but we also should go one step further: we need to rainmake for each other. We should think of our female contacts when an RFP goes out or when our companies are looking for new vendors. We should suggest our female colleagues to others when their skill sets fit a need.
âWomen supporting other womenâ doesnât simply mean being a friend or mentor, it means being a rainmaker. The only way we will all rise in the workplace is by helping each other. Are you ready to be a rainmaker for other women?
By Erin Wolf
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