Fourteen years ago my widowed mother had a health event that caused her life to suddenly change course — and the lives of her children and their families changed as well. As her Financial Advisor, I was in a position to have knowledge of a good part of her financial assets but I didn’t have the whole picture and that proved to be quite a challenge to overcome as we stepped in to lovingly care for her.
I have wondered why l didn’t ask Mom more questions about her finances and personal affairs. I do have recollections of casual conversations when she would say something about her local checking accounts, her burial plot or my father’s WWII experience. She was a relatively young woman and I thought there would be plenty of time to have that “aging parent and money” conversation. For many of us, those conversations are not easy to have because it feels like an invasion of your parent’s privacy and a bit like a no confidence vote on their longevity.
There may be a gradual transfer of your parents’ responsibilities to you as they enjoy a long and healthy life, or there may be a sudden need to step into their affairs due to illness or death. Thus the timing of the money conversation should actually be an ongoing sharing of information. A discussion of the location of the following nine matters could easily lead to a more in depth conversation about your parents’ financial affairs:
Creating a Family Records Organizer would be an ideal way to compile these records – and by the way, as you help create your parents’ family records organizer I highly recommend you create one for yourself.
By Kristen Fricks-Roman
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Kristen Fricks-Roman CFP®, CRPS®, is a senior vice president of Morgan Stanley Wealth Management, Atlanta. She can be reached at kristen.fricks-roman@morganstanley.com.
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