What NOT to Tell the Boss

Whether your boss is difficult and demanding or calm and compassionate, knowing how to approach her can make a difference in how far and fast you advance.

So, what do bosses not like to hear?

“I can’t.” This shows you may not have the work ethic to accomplish company goals, says Cheri Beranek, president and CEO of fiber management company Clearfield Inc.

Instead, she suggests saying something like, “There are going to be some obstacles to accomplishing that goal,” then explaining what can be done to address those.

“I need a raise.” An unexpected expense in your life isn’t going to rouse sympathy. If you want more money, experts suggest going to your boss with a business case for why you deserve it. Highlighting why it’s in the company’s best interest will help.

“That’s not my job.” Most bosses just want you to do what’s asked of you, according to U.S. News. If the task is outside your realm of knowledge, explain why you may not be the best person suited for that task.

Other phrases to avoid include, “Everyone is stressed out here,” “I have too much on my plate,” and “I don’t have anyone on my team to delegate to,” says author and executive coach Kristi Hedges.

Chances are, the boss has even more to juggle, which means complaining probably won’t help your case. Try sticking to solutions and problem solving instead.

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By Christy Rogers

“The person who knows how will always have a job. The person who knows why will
always be [her] boss.” Alanis Morissette