Build Relationships, Get Promoted
The best predictors for promotion revolve around building relationships at work. Thatâs rightânot competence, intelligence, or even exceptional strategic or operational abilityâbut rather, relationships. In research for their book The Leadership Machine, Michael M. Lombardi and Robert W. Eichinger studied over 1,000 people across a two-year period. They had performance, promotion, and/or termination information for all. The results were conclusive: relationships and networking largely determine who gets ahead. They found that three of the top five predictors of promotion for managers and executives were boss relationships, peer relationships, and customer relationships.
And of course the flip side of thisâwhat gets both managers and executives fired the most? Having weak relationships and networks. âPeople may excel at most of the competencies fairly important to performance, yet get dismissed,â state Lombardi and Eichinger. Does that sound familiar to you? It does to me. I have seen more than one extremely competent co-worker flame out simply because he or she wasnât organizationally savvy.
I have similarly seen those who I didnât think were exceptionally talented thrive in organizations largely because they were well-liked. The more bureaucratic the organization, the more this holds true. Managing up, understanding the politics, and getting along with co-workers are all necessary parts of playing the corporate game.
The rules of this game arenât that difficult to learn. A good place to start is by knowing yourself. It’s difficult to have successful interaction with others if you don’t knowing yourself well, hopefully better than anyone else does. What are your motivations? Fears? What hits your hot buttons? Itâs easier to manage and relate to others if you know yourself.
The next step to better interpersonal relationships is to understand othersâtheir motivations, fears, etc. The biggest âahaâ for many hard-driving professionals is that everyone doesnât necessarily think the way they do. As Baroness Pauline Perry of Southwark, a member of Englandâs House of Lords and former Chief Inspector of Schools, remembers, âI didnât realize until late in my career that everyone is not as ambitious as I am. Quite a lot of people are content and happy with where they are. I had to learn to manage different people differently.â
Successful leaders understand others and build relationships around this knowledge. They make sure they learn how their boss is compensated and what her motivations are. They take the time to get to know the psyches of their co-workers and direct reports better.
I have found that altering my style in order to make others more comfortable yields big rewards. I’m not talking about changing your ethics or personality; I’m talking about the style you use in interacting with others. If it sounds like a game, maybe it is. You decide if and how you put time and energy in nurturing relationships and developing an adaptable styleâbut at least know the rules so your decision about whether to play or not is an informed one.
By Erin Wolf
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