Four Smart Reasons to be More Selfish
Selfishness is not a quality that many people value. And to a large degree, this is understandable. Most of the time, it’s beneficial and beneficent to focus on the well-being of others. However, some people are so selfless –– so caring and so giving –– that they ignore pressing personal issues to their own detriment. With that in mind, today we’ll explain why everyone should be –– at least a little –– more selfish from time to time:
Caring people may not think they have time to visit the doctor or to look after their own physical fitness. This is a flawed way of thinking. In fact, you should strive to nurture your body just as you attend to the needs of others. Whether this means carving out an extra 30-minutes a day to exercise, or scheduling a much-needed medical procedure like hammer toe surgery, you should never feel guilty about looking after yourself. After all, no one else will if you don’t!
The best relationships are built on trust, compromise, and a principle of “give-and-take.” Unfortunately, many good relationships turn sour because of an imbalance in that dynamic. A lasting relationship can’t be “all give” or “all take.” It’s important for individuals to stand up for themselves if they feel strongly about something. Good couples find ways to accommodate each other –– remember that.
While it’s true that bosses and managers love employees who are team players, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t speak up if you have a problem at work. Perhaps you dislike your office; or maybe you need to work from home more often. In such an instance, it’s perfectly reasonable to be “selfish” and to request your company to step in and help. At the end of the day, insisting on a few changes in your work environment can lead to greater productivity, which is advantageous to all parties.
More Time & Better Priorities
Selfless people may have a hard time turning down others who request their help. The reality is, though, you can’t be in two places at once. Learning to say “no” when you’re busy, swamped, emotionally drained, or incapable of offering support will allow you to focus your time and energy toward causes that 1) really matter to you and 2) that you can advance in a meaningful way. Saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad person –– it just means that you have your priorities in order.
Thinking and acting on behalf of others is extremely worthwhile. But it shouldn’t come at the cost of your own health, ambitions, or happiness. Striking the right balance between compassion and self-care will be better for you and the people in your life.
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