Love Language For Our Kids?
Knowing your child’s language of love makes parenting a little easier. Why? Well, if your child is feeling off or having a hard time with something, you will have specific behaviors that will help them feel loved and will hopefully shift their mood. The trickier part is figuring out which of the 5 love languages your child prefers.
Offering further commentary on learning your child’s ‘love language’ is Clinical Psychologist, Health Service Psychologist, a Board Certified Music Therapist and Momprenuer, Dr. Bethany Cook author of What it’s Worth – a perspective on How to Thrive and Survive Parenting. She believes that children benefit from receiving love in each of the 5 forms, but they typically prefer and feel one a little more than the others. Cook’s tips on addressing each form below:
- Ways to show love through touch:
- Brush their hair
- Offer to cuddle
- Buy different bristle paint brushes and “paint” their arms, back, and legs.
- This could be done in a bath or just when watching TV.
- Gentle shoulder squeeze as you walk past.
- Holding hands as you walk.
- Sitting close enough to touch.
Words of Affirmation:
- Leave a note of encouragement for them in their lunch.
- Let them overhear you talking positively about them to someone (can even be a stuffed animal.)
- Say affirmations with them each day.
- Call or text them out of the blue with an inspirational quote.
Quality Time Together:
- Engage 100% in a preferred activity of theirs (playing cars, reading, walking).
- Set aside a chunk of time once a week to have “us time” and plan together during the week what you will do.
- Sometimes it’s just about sharing the same space and you can be present in their room doing some work (on the phone, cleaning, etc) while they play.
- Let your kid know you canceled your plans (once in a while) when conflicts arise to do their thing instead of yours.
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